Children are known to be self-centred and honest because that is how they learn about the world they will grow up in. They are naturally inclined towards protecting their own safety, needs and desires and often end up ‘triggering’ the adults around them by stirring their emotions around their own unmet needs as individuals. When … Read more
We all have experienced this phenomenon even as children. If a 4-year-old trips and falls, the other children would probably giggle, ignore them or tell them off for being clumsy. The handful who don’t react in these ways might feel they are the odd ones out; unpopular, different (read weird) and hence wrong! Clearly if … Read more
Trauma is not the actual event but the long lasting impact left on our minds and bodies after that event that continues to cause physical and psychological harm” – Gabor Maté Physical and emotional pain are both perceived similarly by the brain. However, because emotional pain is not necessarily caused by physical causes, it can … Read more
Some things I said to my patients that might resonate with others too: As a parent, you’re usually trying to respond to your child/children’s needs. However, when your own emotional reserve is depleted, your behaviour can be more impulsive, reactive, and not what you genuinely want. That doesn’t make you a bad parent. Just a … Read more
Treatment of people with medications when they present with issues related to their mood, motivation, sleep, stress, fears and doubts, worries and feelings should be based on their journey as individuals and not just physical signs and symptoms. Physical health can be seriously affected by poor emotional and mental wellbeing; however, management in these cases … Read more
All Emotions Are Normal. Over the years, the desire to succeed and present an impressive image to others has perhaps led us down the path where acknowledging emotions and experiences that are deeply uncomfortable and painful has become very uncommon. On the occasions where these feelings are acknowledged, they are either conveyed as tokenisms (superficial … Read more
Communication is a skill. The ability to respectfully articulate our thoughts and emotions in a clear and effective manner without degrading or humiliating others is assertive communication. However, even when we try our best to be mindful of others and convey our thoughts and feelings with respect, others can take offence or become aggressive towards … Read more
Children require unconditional emotional, spiritual, physical, and financial support, especially in their formative years. When we show preferences amongst our children based on certain criteria like academic performances, physical appearances, athletic skills, or creativity, we start to create a void and a complex in our children’s minds. The children who are given more suffer gravely … Read more
Intentions speak louder than actions but if actions continue to take us away from our values then the well-meaning intentions will turn into suppressed emotions creating a different type of trauma response in us. A gentle mother who wants to help her child toughen up against children who tease him stops herself when the boy’s … Read more
‘It happened to me and I was fine, surely it can’t be that bad for them. They just need to toughen up, get on with it.’ ‘My father always went out if my mother started to talk about something. He wasn’t the talking sort, you see, so my mum stopped trying too. I don’t get … Read more
