Some things I said to my patients that might resonate with others too: As a parent, you’re usually trying to respond to your child/children’s needs. However, when your own emotional reserve is depleted, your behaviour can be more impulsive, reactive, and not what you genuinely want. That doesn’t make you a bad parent. Just a … Read more
Treatment of people with medications when they present with issues related to their mood, motivation, sleep, stress, fears and doubts, worries and feelings should be based on their journey as individuals and not just physical signs and symptoms. Physical health can be seriously affected by poor emotional and mental wellbeing; however, management in these cases … Read more
All Emotions Are Normal. Over the years, the desire to succeed and present an impressive image to others has perhaps led us down the path where acknowledging emotions and experiences that are deeply uncomfortable and painful has become very uncommon. On the occasions where these feelings are acknowledged, they are either conveyed as tokenisms (superficial … Read more
Communication is a skill. The ability to respectfully articulate our thoughts and emotions in a clear and effective manner without degrading or humiliating others is assertive communication. However, even when we try our best to be mindful of others and convey our thoughts and feelings with respect, others can take offence or become aggressive towards … Read more
Children require unconditional emotional, spiritual, physical, and financial support, especially in their formative years. When we show preferences amongst our children based on certain criteria like academic performances, physical appearances, athletic skills, or creativity, we start to create a void and a complex in our children’s minds. The children who are given more suffer gravely … Read more
Intentions speak louder than actions but if actions continue to take us away from our values then the well-meaning intentions will turn into suppressed emotions creating a different type of trauma response in us. A gentle mother who wants to help her child toughen up against children who tease him stops herself when the boy’s … Read more
‘It happened to me and I was fine, surely it can’t be that bad for them. They just need to toughen up, get on with it.’ ‘My father always went out if my mother started to talk about something. He wasn’t the talking sort, you see, so my mum stopped trying too. I don’t get … Read more
We all are human. During the formative years of our childhoods, we start learning which parts of us work better in most situations. For example, in class while answering a tough question and putting up with classmates teasing, the tough and brave part would show up more. When feeling sad and confused, the sensitive part … Read more
Feelings can be misplaced or displaced when we direct or project them inappropriately at someone or something that is not the source of those feelings. Consider the following hypothetical scenario – Jo is driving back from work after a really long day where he was yelled at by his manager for not submitting a report … Read more
Somewhere along the line, we have started to pursue goals as a destination and not the journey. The destination, in my opinion, is not a tangible thing and creates an illusion of a dream that we all need to keep striving for, yet will never achieve. Getting married, having children, owning a house, cars, building … Read more
