Looking at Behaviours Through a Trauma-Informed Lens
Emotions and experiences that a child cannot manage in a safe manner tend to get trapped within the child’s body and mind. This trapped experience is either ‘avoided, deflected, projected or suppressed.’ Unfortunately, these ‘fright, flight, freeze, fawn’ responses do cause compensatory behaviours as well. Here is one such example. If a child has witnessed
Let’s Start Living With Hope And Purpose
Today’s world and lifestyle is pushing us all into a spiral where the more we do, the more we feel left behind. It seems like a race with the finishing line moving farther away no matter how fast we go. Perhaps that’s where we are doing things wrong. We keep trying to do more and
What Does ‘Holding space’ Mean, In Terms Of Psychology/Therapy?
As human beings we all experience feelings and emotions and often people start thinking that doing so makes us become a problem. Unfortunately, it’s not feeling the emotions that could be viewed as problematic but how we respond/react to emotions. For example, Mr X has lost his job. He’s the sole earner in his family
Why Are We Trying To Raise Obedient And ‘Good’ Children?
Children are known to be self-centred and honest because that is how they learn about the world they will grow up in. They are naturally inclined towards protecting their own safety, needs and desires and often end up ‘triggering’ the adults around them by stirring their emotions around their own unmet needs as individuals. When
Doing The Right Thing Is Hard, But Why?
We all have experienced this phenomenon even as children. If a 4-year-old trips and falls, the other children would probably giggle, ignore them or tell them off for being clumsy. The handful who don’t react in these ways might feel they are the odd ones out; unpopular, different (read weird) and hence wrong! Clearly if
Emotional Vs Physical Trauma
Trauma is not the actual event but the long lasting impact left on our minds and bodies after that event that continues to cause physical and psychological harm” – Gabor Maté Physical and emotional pain are both perceived similarly by the brain. However, because emotional pain is not necessarily caused by physical causes, it can