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A Fix Or A Crutch?
Children require unconditional emotional, spiritual, physical, and financial support, especially in their formative years. When we show preferences amongst our children based on certain criteria like academic performances, physical appearances, athletic skills, or creativity, we start to create a void and a complex in our children’s minds. The children who
Understanding Strength
Intentions speak louder than actions but if actions continue to take us away from our values then the well-meaning intentions will turn into suppressed emotions creating a different type of trauma response in us. A gentle mother who wants to help her child toughen up against children who tease him
Perception Perception On The Wall
‘It happened to me and I was fine, surely it can’t be that bad for them. They just need to toughen up, get on with it.’ ‘My father always went out if my mother started to talk about something. He wasn’t the talking sort, you see, so my mum stopped
The Parts Within
We all are human. During the formative years of our childhoods, we start learning which parts of us work better in most situations. For example, in class while answering a tough question and putting up with classmates teasing, the tough and brave part would show up more. When feeling sad
Emotional Displacement
Feelings can be misplaced or displaced when we direct or project them inappropriately at someone or something that is not the source of those feelings. Consider the following hypothetical scenario – Jo is driving back from work after a really long day where he was yelled at by his manager
A Dreamer’s Hope
Somewhere along the line, we have started to pursue goals as a destination and not the journey. The destination, in my opinion, is not a tangible thing and creates an illusion of a dream that we all need to keep striving for, yet will never achieve. Getting married, having children,
The Wandering Myths About Grief
I hail from the subcontinent and there, the expression of deep sadness and grief is often conveniently attributed to something shameful. The subcontinental and Asian cultures still hold strong to the thinking of the ancient Greeks and Egyptians of early nineteenth century where the ‘wandering uterus’ was the source of
Prickly Question Salad
Do you wonder if we’ve improved management of physical pain but have forgotten how to recognise and manage emotional pain? Our children find it okay to cry, ‘bear’ the pain when they fall down and scrape their knees and elbows or get hurt in a match, but if they don’t
Listening – A Lost Art
The modern world with all its advances and improvisations has taught us to do most things at a quicker pace. I do wonder if in this desire to be quicker and hence more effective, we’ve actually forgotten some basic skills that we intrinsically possess. Do we listen closely anymore? Do